so i just woke up about 5 mins ago. i read some other threads about how to lucid dream and i only did like one thing, which was reality checks. i didn't even do a reality check and i figured out i was dreaming midway through. so the dream starts and i'm going over to this guy from my old college's house to hook up with him. i realized i was dreaming so instead of my ex i conjured up an ex. this was not really an informed decision. so she appears, and it's a future version of her, with different hair and looking older and more refined i guess. i suddenly am in a church cathedral and she's chasing me around with a knife. i let this go on for a little bit and then i remembered it was a dream so i woke myself up. so, i'm summarizing that i have slight control but the soykaf can still go awry. how do you gain more control?