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I'm 18, kissless and virgin. It's lonely as fuarrrk.

You're fine bro many people are at 18. Just focus on your future and make friends.

>kissless virgin come on at least you're not hugless and hand-holdless too. count ur blessings

>>41476 I remember being hugged twice by girls, when I was 12 and 14. But this isn't really important because it seems that hugging is fairly common in my country, especially among low-middle class people. Never held hands with a girl though, that's definitely more romantic than kissing here.

>18 rookie numbers you dont have the right to complain until you turn 30

>>41479 >30 Those are baby numbers. Just wait until you get your wizard powers. Quit complaining and find the confidence to live your life for yourself instead of trying to find fulfillment in others. If you find things that you are passionate about, you can find others who share your passion. Simple as.

you can always go fuarrrk yourself dude, can't loose this way. loneliness is a certain state of a helpless dumbass. wise up or fuarrrk yourself. you only desire a female until you get to suffer one and then you realize virginity is based and supreme.

i dont care if someone had sex with 1,000 model women, you are already winning simply by being 18. you are so lucky and you dont even realize it. im beginning to lose my hair, and im fatter than ive ever been. the weight just packs on now. you can turn it all around. i can but ive already missed a huge chunk of my life compared to you, and it will be harder for me.

>>41483 IDK Ive known some fat 18 year olds and some balding 18 year olds, and some not fat, not balding men of really whatever age you happen to be, or more. All this sounds like a skill issue.

Just wait a couple years and you'll stop caring. You're still a horny teenager

>>41484 Yeah, I'm overweight. Also soykaf parents who didn't raise me well.

i mean me too but im not sittin on lainchan complainin like a bitch. work for it if you care that much. get off the computer and talk to women

>>41484 I wasn't referring to just getting laid. I was pointing out that OP is extremely lucky to be young, and that youth, or should I say health is more valuable than anything.

>>41489 You're projecting. Just because maybe you didn't squander your life and ruin your health by the time you were 18 doesn't mean OP hasn't.

>>41487 Ain't that simple, schmoyo. Went after girls constantly between 18 and 22, turned my life around, got fit, did the whole fuarrrkin' self improvement arc, got my soykaf together, landed a gig, and STILL haven't had a SINGLE long term relationship. Not one, man. Even in my sleep I still dream of girls I'll never have, while everybody else around me lands a relationship by pure chance. Already 24 and it's not any better. Ain't that simple, man.

>>41494 I got the same backstory, brother. But my girlcrazy phase was when I was 21-23. I'm 24 too and I have pretty much given up all hope by now. The fitness part is cool, though. I do feel better generally now that I have decent physical health, but the gaping hole in my chest never stops hurting.

>>4149 Damn. Hurts to hear that bro. At least we've got rhe discipline now, right? Shame it doesn't get you girls, lol. Weird tho how I feel like you're just a hair's breadth away from getting lucky and making it, while i'm dead sure that i'm perma-fuarrrked. Fr though, you might make it. I've seen some crazy soykaf in my time and love is only one lucky break away.

>>1493 You can cope all you want. Your body stops developing, your brain/neuroplasticity stops growing around 25. Then it's a slow trajectory downwards toward death. I don't know why you're trying to deny the fact that being young is good, but OP should appreciate it

>>41497 God damn it meant for >>41493

whew, so, https://www.onahole.com/ it's round so should fill the hole in the chest. also, if the hole is especially big, you might want to use something like https://www.touchoffur.com/plugs/ >muh life ends at 25 most people in my area only start living around 35-40

>>41499 Completely delusional, but it that's how you cope that's fine. I've seen this attitude from tons of middle aged people, and it's fine, whatever helps you sleep at night. If you're seriously going to sit there and pretend like being young is not a good thing, there's nothing more to say.

>>41500 >Completely delusional >pretend like being young is not a good thing look who's talking

>>41501 Just because your situation is bad, doesn't mean it's not exponentially more bad than someone who's, let's say, 30 and lonely. A 70 year old will always tell a 50 year old they're lucky. Let's not pretend any of these ages aren't preferable to being 18, assuming we're going on bodily health alone, and not financial standing/other environmental factors

>>41502 >Just because your situation is bad, doesn't mean it's not exponentially more bad than someone who's, let's say, 30 and lonely. >Let's not pretend any of these ages aren't preferable to being 18 this makes zero (0) sense

>>41504 Whatever you say, anon. Whatever you say...

>>41497 I see what you're saying. I guess, all things considered maybe I'd always rather be younger, to a point at least. That being said, age is one multiple axes of Health. Everything else being equal, its better to be younger, but that doesn't mean there aren't specific 18 year olds, or 16 or 10 year olds who aren't worse off than specific 30 year olds, dying of cancers, diabetic, getting strokes. You hardly know anything about OP.

>>41505 i keep saying to myself my life is over i am sure that i can not recover and i know my destiny is hell i have learned that god is fell my only therapy is lainchan and in my life there is no fun my mind has turned into a garbage bin and my twenties i am still a virgin woe, brothers, i am going bald i woke up to know i am retard hid in my room, i wish i'm never seen oh god, please turn be back 18

>>41497 It just sounds like you're having a pity party. >>41483 "wah my life is like kicking dead whales down the beach because I'm not 18"

18? You little fuarrrk! Try 32 years of never having been looked at by a girl, going to bed every night longing for a hug and a good night kiss, and gentle whisper while watching 3 million people kissing, hugging and saying i love you to each other every fuarrrking day in the city. Try it motherfucker, and report back how bad it was at 18y.o. Wankerness aside: You'll be okay buddy, get chad friends and they will help you become semi-chad/chadlite to get a girlfriend. The suffering always comes first, then the fruits. Just be smart and choose the right kind of suffering, not the fruitless ones.

>>41471 brother being in a relationship is just as wack as not being in one >>41480 what this guy said

>>41541 Yeah I would love if i was 18 again give me those lost years back of being alone so at least i can be alone and hopeful and mor energy to be able to more easily try to do something with my life

>>41541 >The suffering always comes first, then the fruits. Just be smart and choose the right kind of suffering, not the fruitless ones. This is good advice. I've read that in a book on becoming more intelligent, actually. Do you have any advice on how to make chad friends. I'm acquaintance with three chads but I'm too afraid to befriend them. Do you have any tips?

>>41559 >Do you have any advice on how to make chad friends. The first step is to have chad hobbies. Now If by chad friends you mean the frat boy party types, that is really easy. They are simple creatures, motivated only by booze, pucci, and showing off. You can find them at bars, clubs, sporting events, and generally big party type locations. You need to act like them to establish rapport, that means dressing, joking, and generally behaving like them. Doing so will probably leave you disgusted in yourself though, so proceed with caution. A quick way is to confidently make a fool of yourself, become the fakest of people. If, by mean chad you mean self confident people, you need to find something that you are passionate about and that you find meaning in. It is important to contemplate the nature of the things that you want or enjoy, by doing this you can figure out the kind of people you actually want to associate with. Some examples would be people you can talk to about your niche interests like obscure martial arts, table top games, fish tanks, or HAM radio, then you are better off going to conventions, expos, educational meet ups, or hobby shops and groups and talking to people who are already in the field. You don't even need to be interested in anything to go in and talk to people in the field, and you might even find something you like. I guarantee you, the latter group has a great deal more sense of fulfillment, and they will be more than happy to share their hobbies and territory with newcomers, unlike the dudebro chads who are constantly trying to out peacock each other to impress women. As a bonus, many hobby groups have either mixed demographics, or you can join ones with a specific demographic (like mostly women). You might make some friends who have children your age. A coworker of mine met his wife because he used to frequent a gun range, and made friends with one of the old guys there, then they started hanging out, and he met the guys daughter and they became friends and then started dating.

>>41571 >You need to act like them to establish rapport, that means dressing, joking, and generally behaving like them. Not in my experience. You can also do it by being funny, being good at holding your liquor, and doing their homework for them. Other than that this post is entirely correct.

>>41573 You can cheat on liquor. Just take DHM (dihydromyricetin) + glycine + NAC (N-acetyl cysteine) and make sure you have some fiber in your stomach. DHM helps metabolism of alcohol and GlyNAC helps produce glutathione which helps with offsetting a small amount of alcohol's negative effects. But id advise against stupid drinking games, alcohol is a hard drug potentially as dangerous if not more than heroin plus ages you so does excess sugar age you.

sewer slides are fun......................

>>41575 ride that soykaf once and you don't wanna ever go back, never ever ever. deadcel ftw.

>>41571 Huh. I'm big into csgo, motorcycles (if I could afford one), calisthenics, and manga. Manga most of all. Discounting crossfit, can you think of any groups that fit me? 'Cus I HAVE been thinking of joining something for precisely this reason, yet I haven't found any groups that actually warrant getting my butt off my desk.

>>41577 Nigga, motorcycle clubs are literally people with motorcycles riding around and being autistic about motorcycles together. A lot of them meet up weekly. You can probably go to motorcycle meetups and ask around if anyone is selling one or knows where you can get a cheap one to start off with. They can be pretty cheap just to get one to ride with the boys. Running groups are a thing, and many places have manga reading circles. You can also do things that incorporate all of your activities but are not specifically based around the one thing you like. Take for example asian cultural clubs. They put on events like cultural festivals and celebrate holidays, but when they aren't, you can make friends with real life asians who also like manga and anime. If you just want to play vidya and stuff, you could probably even volunteer at recreational centers for kids who's parents aren't around. That's where the classic meme of volunteer places to make friends and meet people comes from.

>>41496 >Weird tho how I feel like you're just a hair's breadth away from getting lucky and making it, while i'm dead sure that i'm perma-fuarrrked. That's how I feel now too. I used to feel like I could actually make it, but after years of constant failure and nothing to show for my efforts I have lost all hope that it will ever get better. And I wouldn't say I have discipline, more like I turned it into one of my copes. Yes, the meme is real.

>>41471 You worry about stupid things. Instead of thinking about your studies, your money, skills or hobbies that allow you to be a better person, you think about meaningless things. Because one day you will be 30, 40, 50 years old, and you will think about why you were so stupid when you were young, condemning yourself to perpetual failure.

>>41689 I do study. Not as much as I was supposed to, but I do. I study mainly math , physics and chemistry because I want to do well in the entrance exam to a nice university in my country and because I like those subjects, but I'm also interested in history and philosophy. I still don't work but my family is more or less wealthy, so this isn't a big worry for me yet. Though I'm trying to learn about investments as well.

>>41697 have you floated the idea to your parents that maybe they should be looking out for women to try and match you up with ?

>>41698 Oops, I guess I misused the word "wealthy". I'm an ESL. We are more like upper middle class. My family doesn't own some big company or anything, but we can afford to eat out often and they could send me to a nice private school. We don't own helicopters or anything like that and our apartment isn't very big as well. My room is kinda cramed. And I guess it would suck to find a woman for me this way...

>>41700 they don't need to be buying-a-fourth-private-jet wealthy to arrange marriages, you don't need to be wealthy at all for that.

>>41701 Where are you from, lainanon? Arranged marriages are seen as weird where I'm from. I'd rather be a virgin until my 30s than have an arranged marriage as a 20yo.

>>41703 I am from the most perfect and beautiful region of the civilized world. My suggestion was merely a suggestion, naturally you can refuse both me and your parents' theoretical pick, or if you find a superior candidate before they find one then all the merrier. Of all the people in the world, no doubt your parents know you quite well, and one hopes, have your interests at heart, one could look for matches, in far worse places. And who knows, maybe they'll find a great choice.

>>41843 Update on this post, I overreacted a bit. Whenever I hear stuff like this I take it with a grain of salt and get very stressed and make things up in my head that aren’t true. It was just an interview to see if my parents would like it but I thought that meant if they liked it I would go on THAT day but no, if I went it would be till a couple of weeks or months. Sorry for the hassle :,D To whoever struggles with the same issues, just know that you are loved and it’s never too late to recover.

People who whine about being virgins are either poseurs (if they have friends, in which case they aren't real losers like yours truly) or stupid (if they don't have friends but think their lack of sex is the cause of their loneliness). >>41704 You're from Wales?

>>41471 you're 18, don't worry about it too much just try to focus on doing stuff that makes you happy, go out somewhere

Old user here want advice? You make or female? I ask because I don’t have much advice for females.

>>41471 >I'm 18, kissless and virgin. It's lonely as fuarrrk. Dude, look. I'm an old man. Let me give you some advice. Save up a little money. Go out to the red light district in your town. Look for a whore with a nice, sympathetic temperament who will be nice to you. Go and have sex with her. Use a condom so you don't get vd. Have a good time, then go home. Then you will have a little bit of experience. You won't obsess over being a virgin. You won't feel as nervous around girls. If you liked the whore, go see her again sometime. Believe it or not, not all of them are drug-addled bitches. Maybe just sit and talk with her and get some advice about getting a girlfriend, what girls like, whatever. At any rate, good luck. You'll be ok.

>>44224 Don't do this op, you will feel worse after your finish

>>44224 eventually you're gonna have a moment of clarity and i'm afaid it's going to drive you to suicide

>>44226 >eventually you're gonna have a moment of clarity That will be one more than you've ever had. >and i'm afaid it's going to drive you to suicide Religious nut or social worker? I'm guessing religious nut, since even a social worker woudn;t say something that gross. And don't worry your simple little head about it.

>>44224 Dont do this x3. It's nothing special if the person means nothing to you.

>>41697 Don't listen to people like >>41689, eventual financial success is not a substitute for sex and affection in your young adulthood, which is far from meaningless and is something you will never get another shot at if you put it off. Your problem calls for less studying and more socializing, the idea that it will work out the other way is a lie told at your expense. Romantic relationships aren't about being worthy of them, it's about people who want the same thing finding each other.

I'm a few years older than you and thought the same thing about myself until I went to college and actually started talking to girls. It's quite easy to know when someone likes you. Just go to school and have a hobby either in music or videography/film, and you'll be fine. Join your college radio station. Actually be rational and well read and don't scare girls off with right-wing bullshit. I was afraid I'd never find a dommy mommy but it's surprising how many girls are into that stuff.

I'm 36, divorced, alone with nothing but my dogs. I don't see my daughter enough, I don't make much money, and I got everyone always breathing down my neck while I'm tired of their expectations. You got your whole life ahead of you, kid. Women get boring after a while anyway, and this is coming from a guy that's slept with 50+ chicks.

>>41471 18 is still so young. don't stress it. sitting online complaining does not do much to fix things. that is not to say that youre "cringe" or "a loser" for that, but dont *just* do that. find something to do outside. go for a run or do a sport, go to a library regularly, book club, take up volunteering somewhere, something like that. it doesn't have to be with another person you know, but just being active like that will help you feel a bit more confident outside and around others, and you may start meeting other people related to what you do and connect with them over a mutual interest. side note, i am not happy with seeing people turn this into a pity contest about who has the "worse" life, or bringing up "chad" bullshit or drugs.

>>44256 >side note, i am not happy with seeing people turn this into a pity contest about who has the "worse" life, or bringing up "chad" bullshit or drugs. Nobody gives a fuarrrk what you're happy with, you incredible, pompous jackass.

Guys, I'm the OP I've seen the recent replies to this post. I want to say that as last year passed, I realized that my problem is way deeper than just being a virgin. Actually, I always knew that, but my personality has just shifted from the stereotypical >tfw no gf to a doomeristic one. I reflected on my life and realized I'm socially inept. I will have many more hardships in life than just not fuarrrking a girl. I don't have friends and that's pretty much why I'm on lainchan in a fuarrrking carnival Sunday. Maybe I'll never even make friends. Maybe I won't adapt well to uni next year and maybe the misery of my life will only end with my life itself. Everything is my parents' fault. I wish next year I will be doing something better than going on lainchan go to cry about me being a piece of soykaf like I did last year and now. Sorry for my poor English skills.

>>44284 If it helps any, I care about what you're saying, and I can identify with it. Maybe that's being friends a little bit? I used to deal with the public in my job, so I had this whole routine built up where I could pretend to be normal and social. I even managed to have a "sort of" friend once in a great while. But if there was a group of people being social, I was in a nightmare. I hope you can find some way to overcome it so you don't wind up like me. You could try some kind of group therapy where you're around people with similar problems. That's easier to deal with.

>>44284 camarada, i know that may be hard for you, but just keep going and be yourself, i got my first gf by talking about hydraulic jacks, and you are a nice guy. You probably have a lot of interesting subjects to talk about if you're here. >carnival sunday You're brazilian right? where are you from? i know this may sound incisive, but you said that you don't have any friends. if you're from the same city as me, i'm willing to give you my email.

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18 is highschool age and only 3% of people ever get a girlfriend during their pre-work/schooling part of their life

>>44288 was way more than 3% where I lived at that age. At least 20% of my HS had a b/gf by graduation and thats just what I can remember off the top of my head for sure.

>>44290 I'm the OP. In my high-school class, about 7 of the 22 people were dating or had dated during the year. That's 31,8%. Maybe there were even more people dating and I didn't know. My class had two couples, and one of the guys dated a girl from another class.

>>44284 Socializing is a learnt skill. Just because your socially inept now does not mean you have to be socially inept in the future. Try and force yourself to socialize more. It doesn't have to be to much starting out, just baby steps. Try and find something local pertaining to your interests and start from there. People are nicer than you think. I'm not saying it's gonna be easy, and it may be incredibly awkward and embarrassing at first but it will be worth it in the end. I wish you best of luck OP.

>>44284 >1. Don't think about it too much. The reason you went from tfw no gf to doomeristic is because you think too much about it. Just relax. You're young. >2. Being doomeristic about that is like shooting yourself in the foot. If you think it's already over, then yes, it will be over before you start your year at Uni. You are your worst enemy. Best advice I can give you about Uni: Clear your head, don't label yourself as a loser, and try to go talk to people in the first few weeks. Chances are, people will come talk to you themselves. When people start Uni, most are as lost as you. Friendless. They crave finding their place and group. If you go and just casually talk to people, even if it's just by asking questions about class-related things, you will most likely end up getting friends. That's as simple as that. I posted here on Lainchan last year about me, a late-20s lonely guy, going back to Uni because 'fuarrrk it'. I had the same fear as you. Guess what? I talked to people. People talked to me. I ended up having a few friends. I'm around the same girl 12hr a day every day, as a friend (I'm already in a relationship). And I started with a way heavier handicap as you: I'm way older than people attending my classes. So just chill Anon. Small talk can go a long way. >3. Talking from experience, you are at one of the most difficult period of your life. It will get better. If you stop thinking it's totally over for you, trust me, it will get better. You are being dramatic and it's normal at your age. I remember being 18 and suicidal. It's too easy at that age to think it's over. It's not. >4. Everything is my parents' fault. Maybe it's true, maybe you are trying to reassure yourself by saying that, I don't know. The only thing you should focus on is how, if it's true or not, you are going to change things. Again, small talk can go a long way. Not thinking about it too much too. (By "it" I mean having sx, kissing a girl, and making friends at all cost. People become weird when they think about it too much. Just be yourself. I know it sounds cheesy but it's true.) >5. Everyone here hopes you will be better next year :) And I hope the same thing for everyone reading this in the same situation as you. >>44295 is correct. >Have a great day everyone.

>>44291 Class of 22? Are you in a special rich prep school? You'll open up in college. Just don't be an engineering major.

>>44287 Ironic seeing this here when the thing that got me out was a domme gf

Focus on learning stuff, getting an education and/or a job, or improve some aspect of your life like fix something around the house, build a home server or something. You'll get smarter and more confident. Approach life with humor and remember that the desire to get a partner will get you nowhere (or just a girl who desires the same thing which you don't want, trust me). Focus on improving your life and being on normal terms with others (don't be taken advantage of, though). Don't stay up late without a reason, i.e. reading a book or working on a project of yours. Don't just lie there and scroll that bs online, you'll feel awful. If you feel like you just don't have anything to do and you can't sleep, have some GABA tea or coffee and go find something to occupy yourself with. And remember--have fun. Follow the recs in this thread and you'll be alright.

Every once in a great while I manage to get up off my sorry, self-pitying ass and do something for myself. Then for a while I can say, "I did that" and it makes me feel better for a while. If I'm lucky I even get a momentary unexpected little rush of joy from it that makes me smile. Rinse and repeat.