Advice please

I want to adopt little girl but I have read stories about it being hard for unmarried men to do so. But I really want to do so mostly out of desire to make my life brighter by caring after someone. It is legal here but usually workers in such organizations (women) deem unmarried man not worthy and can decline without legal reason. So can you please help me lainons, what do I need to say and do to make it more likely to happen?

your fixation on just women and girls makes me want to call 911

Your ESL stands out. Anyway, give up your pedodreams because even if they someone caved and let you, a single unmarried man, adopt a young, vulnerable girl, someone else is sure to blow your brains out. Go get laid and consider seeing other people as people instead of a means to a self-centered end.

Generally adoption means the state needs to come and inspect your home and be very intrusive in your life to make sure you aren't a bad person. It might be easier to just find an unwanted baby or get a hooker pregnant. Have you ever taken care of a fish? A hamster? A dog? It isn't going to be an easy thing to raise a child. Some places also have fostering children where you basically just get paid to feed and house children who are in a bad spot (parents died or were arrested) but those kids can sometimes be soykafty people too. I considered adopting a child once, because I can't have children due to medical reasons, and most women here would make garbage parents and I can't stand them. I wanted to give some child a chance at a good life in this fuarrrked up world. Unfortunately, I was considered a poor fit because I work a hazardous industrial job, and without another parent they were worried that if I died or got injured then I would not be able to care for the child. I am actually in a position to raise a child because I am well educated, have a good home, no debt and make a lot of money. But the state would rather trust financially struggling couples than a single man. Guess I'll go blow some more money on Gundam action figures model airplanes to assemble or something in the meantime. >Feelsbadman.jpeg

Lmao between people like OP and "21 year old minors" things really are going to soykaf, aren't they? Men with a stable income can't go and marry up a girl in her prime fertile years coz we can't have well bonded relationships and she needs to waste that time on her "career". Btw few people actually have a career, it's mostly just bullshit jobs that we're sacrificing the future of humanity for. While porn addiction is ravaging people like OP into practical pedophilia. We truly live in a society.

>>40568 Yeah you are right it is never a wise decision to let government into your life especially when it isn't on your side. If they need a reason they will always find one even if I can do it on paper legally. Well it was an idea to consider even if it doesn't seem to be realistic now.

Morons that infiltrated Lainchan strike again. Nothing OP said really suggested him being pedophilic, are you all misandrists thinking all men are pedophilic and rapists? Even if he was pedophilic that doesn't matter as long as he has enough needed self control, empathy and a level of understanding about child psychology and is capable of raising a child. There is a hint of misogyny there though, which makes me question his capacity to raise a girl. OP it would help if you elaborate more on why do you think you would do better raising a girl over a boy and why do you think adopting a child would make your life brighter. What makes it feel dark for you and what sort of aspirations do you have? I think it would be a bit selfish to do if it is just for you and not for the child and sets you up for potential disappointment because what if the kid doesn't even wind up liking you or worse, hates you? As some have said maybe you would do better with a pet, but on other hand unless it is a bird of a certain species or if you are ill or plan to kill yourself you will long outlive your pet. Another option would be becoming someone who works with the foster system who takes care of kids who are placed temporarily in your care, however issue here is you will need good social skills because many will come from troubled homes and have mental problems which you would have to know how to handle. Also have you considered going into nursing to take care of people?

Germany at least used to support pedohphillic adoption but that might have been only for homosexuals. Not sure about it for people like OP.

>>40569 I wonder what you do for a living that makes you feel so superior to everyone else.

i dont trust you, nor do they. and aside the fact you are probably a pedophile, you clearly aren't capable of adopting a kid. if you can't figure out how to adopt a kid, how are you supposed to take care of the child, do you know how much caring for a child entails? ask your parents.

>>40950 Most parents that birthed a kid dont know how to raise them they just guess going along. As it has already been stated nothing OP said is pedophilic, most people that want kids have a preference for one reason or another and it wouldnt inherently matter if OP was pedophilic if he was if he has self restraint and no intent of using her. Most child abusers even of the sexual kind are not pedos but sociopaths or people with cognitive problems like people with down syndrome and severe autism. Though yes I do question OPs ability at this current moment but not from asking since it's a complicated legal process and there is certain vetting but more about his seeming sense of possible misogyny and from selfish reasons for having a kid, though most parents have selfish reasons too which is why most parents suck.

>>40544 take some advice, op. female children are boring, fragile, and extremely annoying. the second she starts schools, it's over. women viciously psychologically manipulate each other, and whatever relationship you have wrongfully convinced yourself you had developed over the years will incrementally erode under the pressure of her peers, whose malicious, vapid, and relentless indoctrinations will outshine you in every possible category.

>>40544 You're either a pedophile, quasi-pedophilic (with mental barriers), or you feel like you missed out on something in your childhood and you want to go back and relive it through someone else. Y&our masculine caretaking impulse (which does exist) has crossed wires and merged with some sort of romantic attention / sexual need. The result is you want someone that needs you, gives you attention, and is dependent therefore cannot leave you. Your mind is broken and has scrambled for whatever reason. Either way you need to just not.

They probably think you are a pedophile, people do take advantage of adopted kids so they have to be careful. Also you could be poor and will have hard time providing for anyone. Alternatively they simply dislike you as a men and just deny you things because they find you unsexy. Many women think with their vaginas. Try talking with a man in such organisation.

>want to adopt little girl >unmarried man

Just get a pet if you want to take care of something cute that will love you unconditionally. Also look up codependency and work on fixing that, it isn't a healthy way to live.

Some questions: -Do you take good care of yourself? Are you financially and mentally stable? Do you present yourself well? -What do you mean by "make your life brighter"? Feel good about yourself? Fix a loneliness issue? -Why a girl, specifically? Do you not identify with your cultures idea of masculinity/ have bad experiences with other dudes? Do you think of girls as better behaved or more innocent? Would you accept a male child? (This one"s particularly important; as you can see, people assume the worst without a clear explanation. In addition, if your countries adoption system is women-dominated, sexist-seeming explanations probably won't fly. If something like "the ultra-chads bullied me horrifically for years and I have trouble with other men now", focus on that. It's what they're most likely to be sympathetic to). -How prone are you to anger?

>>43743 I'm not OP but I understand and relate to girls better and while I don't want to generalize they tend to not be as much of little soykafs as boys can sometimes be. So I would prefer a girl too if I had a kid, but I would feel weird having a kid when I havent properly been with a girlfriend before so I dont think about those things.

Bruh, just get a dog. Unless youre a pedophile taking care of a dog or cat or something should help.

>>40959 Is it crazy to think that a man might be inspired to take care of and raise a girl for non-sexual reasons? We have popular media that depicts this as a wholesome and healing experience. I think there is probably a bias towards men adopting girls in media over men adopting boys. The ratio would be 1:3 in the first four titles with this kind of thing that I can think of. I don't think this is pedo/fujo bait either. There are pitches for this empathic cathartic experience, should we be surprised when people believe in it? Aren't men naturally primed to want to protect, cherish and nurture? On an unrelated note, if I kidnapped you and manipulated your mind for decades with chemicals and electrodes could I turn you into a gay guy? Does this mean you are a closeted gay man???

I had the same thoughts as you, which its not wrong to want to adopt a child who has a fuarrrked up life to give them some kind of cheer. The issue with adopting is that the agencies who allow people to adopt kids hate single people, or they dont have enough cash, or a good place to live. But theyll adopt to actual molesters or people who hate children. This planet needs a reformation its all just wrong

>>43763 kids need a family, not a single idiot who treats them like an accessoire.

>>43754 Not just a man. The kind of person who would post on an imageboard asking "what to say or do to make it happen". The answer is get a partner and a way to provide for all 3. >>43764 2 people is not necessarily a family

>>43764 Youre misjudging all of humans, how would you know that a single father wouldnt do good to a foster child? Who know maybe op would be a good father, i for sure probably wouldnt. My main thing im looking for god and an apology.

>>43766 2 unrelated people are not a family at all. An unrelated male and female who live together in fact are called a couple.

>>43768 They can be though, anyone can be a family if they love eachother like a family and do family oriented things.

>>40569 you're not slick lol. you're the same guy who was telling that 16 year old she was prime fertile years the other day, right? its really telling when guys like you talk about porn addiction. lots of the supposed post-left post-feminist defectors love to go on and on about, talking about their hatred for pedos as if we don't all know where its coming from

>>43771 Well thats what couples frequently do it is not, found families ?

>>40544 "Just get married anon it's literally that easy! "

>>43772 There is no reliable data to suggest that someone being sexually attracted to children has any meaningfully higher rates of child abuse of any kind. That mainly comes from psychopaths and people with cognitive disabilities or other problems. >>43773 > does a person needs to be male to be a pedophile? This too. Rates in male or female population isn't really known but there definitely are some.

>>43777 It literally is though

>>43778 >There is no reliable data to suggest that someone being sexually attracted to children has any meaningfully higher rates of child abuse of any kind. That mainly comes from psychopaths and people with cognitive disabilities or other problems. That's a very authoritative assertion to make with no evidence whatsoever, and an admission that you do not take issue with pedophiles adopting children.

>>43778 if you have a citation for your claims, which you probably don't, it's likely on account of the fact that the necessary sample size doesn't exist for meaningful statistical inferences can't be made about such a small population. plus its absurd that you would claim science before resorting to unclinical generalizations as "psychopaths and people with cognitive disabilities or other problems".

The purpose of adoption is, fundamentally, giving a home to children who don't have parents and not giving a child to someone who wants one. Children benefit from having both a mother and father, and kids raised by single parents do worse in almost every metric. Men make terrible mothers, and women make terrible fathers. It is a good desire that you want children, but this should obviously not happen outside marriage. Unfortunately it is almost impossible to find a woman who is not some feminist whore, but they are out there. >>40957 >the second she starts schools, it's over. Well there is your problem. The schools are fuarrrked, homeschooling is the only option at this point.

just adopt a cute adult lil pooner, adoptbro.

>>43772 >why you resent women Literally nothing said by OP display this opinion. Your whole post is just assumptions that paint OP in bad light, who cares about dialogue in good faith. >>40544 If you dont know what to say or do, you probably should not adopt a kid. Start with a dog or a cat, see if you like. Or you can volunteer to some charity. Maybe help an old neighboor. You barely gave any information about youself, difficult to provide an answer.

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>>43764 well this is just a general argument against long distance adoption. And frankly its a good argument.