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I've had sex two days in a row now (first time experiences). I'm in my 30s and had my first time now so I think I'll make this a separate thread. Sex is kind of boring. I keep myself afloat by trying out new poses, but I don't know how long-term couples survive this boredom. Pleasing the female is easier than expected. I just fuarrrk her like I fuarrrk my ona hole and she seems to like it a lot. It's easy to know when she likes it, then there's a lot of wetness. Risk of slipping out then if you don't thrust deeper. She moans a lot, sometimes in a very funny way, I try not to burst out in laughter at times. Not sure whether she had an orgasm, I don't really care anyway. She gets off more by finger work than penetration it seems. I usually cum right away. Then we cuddle for a moderate amount of time and then I go a second time. That's when I keep fuarrrking her really good, she loves it. After sex, she gets a bit clingy, it's slightly annoying. I came into her multiple times, she says it's her safe day. I don't care if she gets pregnant and gets a kid. I don't mind. She knows I don't care too much about long term staying together though. I guess she's okay with being a single mum. I will incorporate the sex into my workout routine as cardio sessions. Thank you for reading.

sex is yucky and also not very good cardio if you "usually cum right away" idk why this keeps getting detected as flood i think this is one of the most intelligent things i've ever written

>>96770 perhaps you missed the part where I go for round 2 and we have sex until we are both sweaty. But you are right in doubting the cardio benefit. The ~1 hour session we had today only accumulated to about 100 kcal according to my sports watch. That's pretty low. Your message was detected as flood because it probably was too short

>>96771 you should try jogging. better cardio, no chance of getting babytrapped, you'll even learn to appreciate nature a bit. also an entire hour is too much for cardio, unless that cardio's weak as hell

If we need anything less of then it is fatherless kids who will grow up all messed up because of it. Just vice yourself or keep to your onaholes if you don't want to take the responsibility. I hate how family courts are set up right now but I hope she gets to squeeze all the alimony from you that she can. It's what deadbeat dads deserve.

>>96776 people who post soykaf like this are attention seeking retards who can't live without having their egos stroked vigorously what a useless post

>>96779 >I don't care if I make a kid or whatever happens to it Just tie your nuts already! The world will thank you!

>sex is boring For you, maybe. >I'm gonna keep doing it Why?????

>>96769 You seem to not have emotions for her... in this case, it might be boring. Like fuarrrking a whore, only the bodily part is there. When there are strong emotions involved (not necessary the lovey-dovey romantic soykaf, strong genuine sexual desire counts too) sex is 100 times better. to be honest your post makes you seem like some schizoid, not trying to shame you, it's okay, but with a mind like that, sex is much different than with a neurotypical mind. But, your not giving a single toss about anything probably makes her go crazy with desire, it's a number one attraction factor in alpha males that women love.

>You seem to not have emotions for her... in this case, it might be boring. Like fuarrrking a whore, only the bodily part is there. When there are strong emotions involved (not necessary the lovey-dovey romantic soykaf, strong genuine sexual desire counts too) >...strong genuine sexual desire counts too) "The perks of being bimbopilled, Shinji" tier though

>>96772 I've read that running has the most risk for injury. I really want to get into running though, for now I will stick with cycling. I don't actually like cycling though, it's so homosexual to do it for workout reasons. I'm too lazy to run. The best cardio is swimming though, I think everybody knows but most people are too shy for the pool or something. It's better this way, there isn't enough space at the pools. >>96776 You can have a kid and be a totally amazing parent, but the government will raise your kid anyway. Send them to kindergarten or public school and it's done, it's basically not your kid anymore. So might as well let the government raise the kid right from the start. Single mum gets the government welfare money and the kid grows up not paying for school (probably, I'm not sure). Just use the system. You can still visit your child occasionally so it has the perception that a father exists for a little damage control. >>96782 I got hurt very deeply the last time I fell in love with a female. Not sure whether I can still fall in love after that. The current female appreciates me a lot. It feels good to be appreciated. It feels for me like, how do they call it, friends with benefits.

>>96785 >I've read that running has the most risk for injury. I really want to get into running though, for now I will stick with cycling. I have been run over more often while cycling(4) than running(0). The only people I know that ever got "injured" while running are a few stupid women with very poor motor control tripping over their own legs. What risks are you talking about?

>>96786 He probably talks about how the knee joints can get fuarrrked up. It's not really an injury, more like chronic wear to the joints, and it can be minimized to a level where normal level hobby runners are not affected to any significant level. You have to look into the techniques, like warm up, proper nutrition, proper shoes, the form of running (biomechanics, in other words: how to use your limbs for it to be natural and not wear down the joints), the tempo, the resting periods, etc etc.

>>96786 "A significant increase in the rate of running-related overuse injury was found when the distance of a single running session exceeded 10% of the longest run undertaken in the last 30 days." https://bjsm.bmj.com/content/59/17/1203 There aren't such mechanisms for cycling as far as I know. But intuitively it should be similar to be honest.

Had sex again. Today she talked a lot. A lot of questions about my past experiences. I had to dodge a lot of crap. i asked her what she likes in bed. She has no clue and just goes with what I do. But she liked what I picked up on the internet once - changing frequency and deepness of penetration randomly. For once the internet didn't lie, I am surprised. I just wish I had a randomness generator on my smartwatch that tells me when to thrust deeper in a random pattern. i also tried the g-spot thing where you finger her in a certain way. There were a lot of juices but no squirting. I'll try again. Fingering her to climax is so much less effort than thrusting for almost an hour only to finish with still a boner while she is all satisfied and euphoric and done. Tomorrow's Valentine's Day, I guess I'll by a flower or two and try to fuarrrk her really slow and romantic. Also we will sleep together for the first time, like actually sleep. I feel anxious. She'll want to talk about a lot of cringy stuff again, like about the past.

>>96782 >>96782 You can have a strong sexual desire to escort too, if you visit her on long nofap and she is hot enough

>>96793 >>96769 I think you should be more helpful in your humblebrag, like describe how exactly you was as incel till your 30s and then managed to make it, so some woman wanted to have sex with you? How long have you knew this woman and why she decided to agree to being penetrated by you? I think me and lots of lainons would be interested in paradox of your situation.

Nice life anon. I for one haven't gotten sex in years. Just rubbing my dick everyday in bed.

>>96769 I assume that the reason you refer to her in an interpersonal way, aka "the female", is because you have experienced something extremely painful in your past relationships. The vulnerability and clinginess that she shows reminds you of your own past vulnerability that you despise, therefore you project your own self-hatred into her. In Jung's theory, the anima makes up the totality of the unconscious feminine psychological qualities that a man possesses and the animus the masculine ones possessed by a woman. There are however four distinct levels of development. Eve (biological), Helen (romantic), Mary (spiritual), Sophia (wisdom). Starting with Eve, the first woman, the one created alongside Adam. The man at this anima level cannot function well without a woman, and is more likely to be controlled by her or, more likely, by his own imaginary construction of her. The woman is equated with the mother, the female, or only represents something to be fertilized. The man may disagree, but he is undoubtedly controlled by lust and sees her as an object rather than a person. She might be seen as a “temptresses” he must punish, the curse of all evil and the reason the man is no longer in heaven. This is the stage you currently seem to be in. It is possible that you were in the second stage, but due to the unfortunate circumstances reverted to this one. This is the stage of incels and misanthropes. The second is Helen, an allusion to Helen of Troy in Greek mythology. She personifies a romantic level as well that is, however, still characterized by sexual elements. Most men, to some degree, stagnate here. In this phase, women are viewed as capable of success and of being self-reliant, intelligent and insightful, having certain limitations and abilities that were set by society. This is the stage of your average individual. The third phase is Virgin Mary. At this level, the Anima is perceived mainly as a partner and you position yourself as an equal. Man notices that his unconscious may enable him to change not only him, but the world. It can lead him morally and spiritually. The man loves and worships the woman. This is the stage for those who have achieved individualization and they perceive is the highest state of enlightenment. I believe almost nobody has achieved the fourth state. The fourth and final phase of anima development is Sophia, named after the Greek word for wisdom. Complete integration has now occurred. As Sophia, the Anima and you are one, beyond duality, in body, mind and spirit. And by the way, the anima doesn't necessarily take the forms described here; it depends from individual to individual and is rather symbolic and appears in dreams.

And while exercising is obviously beneficial, this intense obsession with it such as incorporating sex into your cardio routine (do you count chores around the garden as well?) and obsessing with what exercise will objectively give you the best "gainz" and less risk of injury (injury = vulnerability = outside of one's control) rather than the one that personally fulfills you is yet another way of hiding one's vulnerability by seeking methods to be more in control. Becoming muscular/strong, obsessive tracking of macros and calories, eating bland foods because they're more "nutritious" etc are one of the ways eating disorders appear in men, and what's unfortunate is that they're often encouraged by others and rarely noticed as being disordered. You'll notice how many body builders, power lifters and /fit/izens (I assume you've been around these parts) have body dysmorphia.

>>97197 OP here. It's true. After you have sex, it's not much of a big deal anymore. As a person who was lonely for years, while people around me had sex, this exclamation made me angry. But it is unfortunately the truth. As incel, I was pretty obsessed about having a relationship or having sex. I suffered not having it. Now I have it and it's nothing special. I won't downlplay it too much though. Regular sexual activity is still beneficial psychologically, but not in the way as expected. It won't get you anywhere in life magically. You'll still have to do the things that you did before. I can honestly say now that working out regularly makes me feel better overall and in the long run than having sex does. So how did I do it, quitting my incel membership in my 30s? First got to know the female through mere encounter inside the social circle. I was interested (obviously. as incel I would have fuarrrked everyone, but she had all the curves and was of the lively sort, I actually liked her) Offered her help with some things due to circumstances. We met up frequently because there were chores to do which I helped with. We two traveled in my car a lot. Just talked about life in general. So spending time together in isolation is key. She liked me too, engaged hugs and kissed me on the cheek as a gesture of thanks once. When she kissed me on the cheek, it was obvious for me that she didn't mind physical contact with me. I gave a kiss on the cheek too. She told me later that at this point she didn't consider intimacy with me yet. I don't know how the female mind works, it's a bit surprising. I did the "accidental" touches which can be defined as nonverbal communication, you know, gesticulating. which some women would classify as sexual harassment though. The game is definitely rigged for us men nowadays. There is no way to become romantic with a female without risking a sexual harassment case. So my best advice for other men is, get used to the thought and don't avoid it. You won't go to jail for it in most cases, especially if the woman wasn't a complete stranger and you have been talking and meeting before. Don't do it at work though. Anyway, she didn't object. At some point, we were driving in my car and I just started holding her leg. So escalation of physical contact, basically doing it by the book. She didn't object, and kept getting happier when we met. So one day I went all in, pinned her down on a sofa and started kissing her. this is as close as it gets to real sexual harassment or rape. She was a bit nervous so I didn't push it. After that it was obvious she wanted it and she wanted more and expressed it verbally. She expressed her desire to make up conditions when we can have sex. There was constant sexual tension now. I fingered her in my car. Two days later we met the conditions for sex in her bedroom and I played it smooth. I pretended that I know what I'm doing. And it kind of worked out. She liked it too, so afterwards we had sex almost daily. I kept fuarrrking her in new ways every time and, apparently, her previous partners were rather dull and I made her feel real excitement. Ok whatever. I guess I am a bit perverted due to years of celibacy and porn. Today I fuarrrked her again. She keeps asking me to treat her roughly. I feel like a rapist. I honestly don't enjoy treating her like that, but she loves it. So anyway, I basically just did everything by the book, the same things that get repeated on the internet as dating advice or whatever. Isolating her, talking, escalating physical contact. Nothing new. The key is the correct execution in the real world and in real time. It's like you can read a lot about fighting and martial arts, but in real life you have to do it and it will be a bit different. And you shouldn't be scared to take a hit or two (rejection, sexual harassment allegations) Honestly, if you are incel, just fuarrrk some prostitutes and get over it. I should have done that too, I would have been able to focus on other things in life - things that I still have to focus on despite having regular sex now. Making a living, staying in good physical condition, spending time with friends.

P sure this is just a guy getting shiny on here not an actual story lol

>No personal connection to the other person >Referring to her simply as a representative of her sex >Completely distanced perspective of what could be the most intimate communication between two people I'm sure that your relationship will last very long. Actually nevermind, I'll drop the sarcasm and will just note that you could be masturbating alone instead of using a person at this point. I hope you'll grow up some day.

>>97510 Most people these days don't want the kind of depth you're talking about. Sex is unfulfilling *because* it lacks intimacy.

>>97510 Not sure what you are saying. The pleasure generated during sex is purely physiological and psychological. The endgame is procreation. Sure, it is oftentimes an experience that brings two people very close interpersonally, but there is no need to reject the purely mammalian aspect of it for some thought up spiritual romanticism.

>>97517 AHHHHHHH SEX!!!!! AHHHH SEEEEEEEEEX

>>97510 For sure she has her own way she is using him for

>>97486 Was doing it once or twice enough for you to focus on other things? do you need to have it continuously to keep your mind off?

it's funny how, no matter how late in life someone has their first sexual experience, they can't wait to tell the entire world about it like as if it's something that nobody else has experienced before and it's going to totally blow their minds. they never realize that it's basically no different than describing a bowel movement to other people, going into specific detail about the size and color and consistency of the turd and what kinds of undigested food fragments were protuding from the surface, how greasy it was and how it left thick brown skidmarks when it rubbed against the toilet bowl, how much wiping was required, etc.

>>97790 we were all born from a sexual act between our parents so ofcourse people want to share when they've done it. degrading it to a simple bowel movement is just plain stupid or very telling of how you see yourself.

>>98891 bowl movement is about as remarkable as it is though. you can't "degrade" something so unremarkable as to literally be in the same "base urge" category as a good bowel movement. it's like those retarded christians (chris-chans) always on about their obsession with purity while most can't even wipe their own ass properly. retards, each and every one.