Why I'm such gullible

Thankfully, I don't really care about money related things. But I'm too fuarrrking gullible about worthless things what I don't actually need to care about them. Mostly, I lurk in imageboards. 'Cuz imageboards are such comfy to look. Also I like its design though. But most imageboards have many topics about technology, especially focusing on `Programming`. And that makes me learn/study it through such little effort to trigger my gullible sense. As a result, I stuck in the fuarrrking bad infinite loop like > Don't know about it > But they -- anons -- are talking about programming > Oh, That's such interesting. I'll studying about it > Actually I don't really need to learn it 'cuz there're already many good softwares and spending time about it with my low-intelligence brain is such worthless > Quit from it. > I lost all things what I tried. contain `time`. > Long\short time passed > Oh anons talking about ... I hate myself. Not only programming related things, but also this case can be applied with other stuffs like gardening, fitness, music, anime etc. In the end, I can't feel any fun or enjoyment with all sort of things what I got motivation from others. My life is soykaf and too gullible or waving like reeds. How can I choose my way? How can I make my will more powerful, stable? I tried to get rid of Internet, but it will make me completely alone. Because i'm neet, and I can't make any friends -- i don't know why. but also I know why unconsciously

>>60243 If your issue is that you seek information that leads to no true end goal, then the obvious solution would be getting an end goal. This way you can not only stop yourself from going down unrelated paths, but you could then also reinvest that saved potential in order to go down the right paths. Also, remember, going down rabbit holes is not always useless, I have used seemingly pointless knowledge an innumerable amount of times in my life. The best way to go down a rabbit hole is by relating what you are reading with what you know so that your brain creates a branching tree of semi-related subjects. Otherwise, it would take a near-direct reference for your brain to call relevant knowledge back to the forefront.

>>60243 It's OK, Lainon. It's a matter of will. A game of will. The people with the most will, win. Yeah. If those of us without will are not being put to the amount of use that we think that we deserve, it means that those with will have no use for us. Either have more will, or just enjoy the ride. Going to zero in this iteration of the world is almost impossible. That's one reason why having a will is so difficult; slacking off has almost no negative consequences. Why try when everything is taken care for you? lol So don't blame yourself, blame the system that is so easy that being a jerk-off rewards you more than trying hard

Do you yourself enjoy anything? If not, was there anything you enjoyed as a kid? Maybe you can try and rekindle that flame from before, pull yourself together, get disciplined, get a planner, make new habits etc. etc., all the productivity self-help stuff. Personally, I'm in the same boat. I suspect that my childhood was out of whack, I was given way too much TV and video games, couldn't think of anything but my shows and coming back to play vidya after school. Eventually I lost all my interest in those things around time I entered college, probably due to depression, and I've been living on autopilot, pushed around by others and goaded by my habits and impulsive urges ever since. In case you're wondering. the self-help stuff I mentioned in the first paragraphs helps but it didn't cure the emptiness inside my soul. Hope you'll do better.

>>60243 > I lost all things what I tried. contain 'time'. I assume you mean something like > I lose all the stuff I tried to make. Time wasted. In that case the solution is simple: Backup. Do it. Back everything up. I make several backups for every worthless line of code I write.

>>60243 >>60526 I have this problem too. But as the other lainon said, it is because we don't really have any goals. People who are really good at something are people who always had a single goal (or few very narrow goals) in mind and they keep following those for their entire life. Usually such people choose their life goals during adolescence. The problem with people like us is bad parenting, I think. Our parents were supposed to either force us to pursue some kind of a life goal or at least to present the options to us and let us chose a life goal for ourselves, while emphasising how important it is for us to have one. But they didn't. Usually this is because they never had any goals themselves. Let me guess: Your parents have never achieved anything in their lives and live only to satisfy their hedonistic urges. How do I know that? Because my parents are the same way. They live according to their hedonistic philosophy and they expect their children to share this philosophy too. (But we don't and that's why we suffer.) That's why it never occurred to them that they should teach their kids to pursue some kind of life goals. That's why they fail at life. And that's why we fail at life too, because we have inherited their philosophy to avoid pain at all cost. This is why the memebers of the lower classes of the society usually only raise yet even more future members of the lower classes. It is an endless cycle. Blame your parents. And if you ever have kids, make sure to teach them how important life goals are.

>>60528 Goals could be the key. But, speaking from experience, it's incredibly difficult to really get any of that across to a kid, and forcing them doesn't guarantee success either. I was forced to study well, I studied well, still it didn't get me anywhere, though it could be argued that the goal set by parents was pretty short-sighted and vague, "studying well" or "not studying well" is basically determined by the results in your report card, or so I was led to believe, and you can achieve that through cheating, being the teacher's pet, personal influence and so on, which I did. As far as I can tell, all passionate and goal-oriented people have horrible tunnel vision and a fundamentally naive understanding of the world, which they managed to carry over from childhood into their adulthood. At its core it's a form of autism, I think. I'm not sure if I can really elaborate. Just think of all the ivory tower types.

>>60243 I think that the vent thread would have been perfect for this kind of discussion. Actually I have a similar problem as you have. I can't get enjoyment from almost anything I do. >How can I choose my way? Study multiple different fields. Watch videos on youtube and read books. You will eventually find something that really interests you. Then you need to make a lot of small goals, and work often but for a short time per session. >I tried to get rid of Internet, but it will make me completely alone. I would rather limit the amount of time you spend on the Internet instead. For the same reason you said.

>>60532 I think it's possible to have a goal in life without it being the only aspect of your life. you shouldn't be hyperfixated on anything but you shouldn't be completely dissociated from life to the point where there's not much to do but keep yourself entertained all day. having no goals makes you depressed, worrying about your goals makes you stressed; there's balance in everything.