how to cope with "i lied to you" breakup

Idk where I shoud post it but... My life and mental state are just falling apart right now. For two years now, I have not been able to move away from my past relationships, in which, as I thought, we were both happy. We invested money in each other. It would seem that what could be better than a feeling of reciprocity? It can be better when you are not being deceived. For six months, she told me how much she loved me, smiled in my face, but everything was a lie. They were just blatantly lying to my face. We spent almost every day together. I got along very well with her family, constantly stayed with them for overnight stays. We never bothered each other, we always had something to talk about. But in the end, I was abruptly abandoned, she said that we are different. Everything would be fine if I had already forgotten about this person, but the warm feelings that I experienced can not get out of my head in any way and continue to cause me pain. Several times every six months I see her in my dreams, beautiful dreams from which I do not want to wake up, dreams in which we are happy together. These dreams are the hardest to see. Sometimes I forget about it for a few months, and it seems that this is the end of rehabilitation. But dreams bring everything back to the beginning. My studies will start soon, it also puts a lot of pressure on me. Sometimes at night I am concretely covered and I can not get rid of anxiety in any way. I'm afraid that all these factors will just take and strangle me. I tried to talk about this situation with my loved ones, but each time I was ignored. Tell me how you are coping with the breakup, how you leave the past in the past and move on, because so far I am not able to come to this on my own. How to deal with all this in general...

>>49278 It is gonna pass OP. It is a matter of time. Try to remember the you before the relationship and the thing you gave up. Put the extra energy you get from your feelings into that direction, something that truly is you. Change your environment as much as you can and focus all into this new (old) direction.

Pick up running or jogging, do that everyday until exhaustion, about 2-3 hours before bedtime, and drink some black or green tea (don't forget to brush your teeth). I do the same and I never have dreams. Wake up before 7 AM and eat healthy. Yes, I know, that's just general advice for a healthy life, but the absence of such a healthy routine is the foundation of just about any mental or bodily problem.

>>49288 I don't want to fully get rid of dreams. If they are not about that girl - my dreams are beautiful. Strange, but beautiful. But I think ur right, maybe that's the only one choice that I have. Im gonna start running and clear my mind. Thank you, lainon.

>>49287 Your words made me think a lot... Thanks

>>49278 I don't know if you're still monitoring this thread, OP, but I had to deal with a breakup with a girl I spent 2.5 years with. Felt like we did everything together, told her everything about me, and then she wants to break up out of the blue. Honestly thought I was going to marry her. The best part is that I used to have dreams after the breakup of her cheating on me with some other guy. That was early 2020. I could try and figure out why she left me, but it's such a waste of time when I look back on it. I've become such a different person to the point where people don't recognize me, mentally and physically. As >>49288 said, pick up healthy habits. Start with running, or lifting at the gym. Something about exercise and the chemicals it releases help you focus deeper. Find ways to be better than the person you were yesterday. The biggest mistake is to do nothing as time passes by.

I've only been broken up with for things that were obvious in hindsight. Also, it's probably not that you're "different". She probably just didn't notice something about you earlier that made you undesirable to her.

There's always future relationships, stay positive lain!

>how to cope with "i lied to you" breakup It's your fault for not expecting to be lied to lying is a basic factor of human communication when someone talks to you you should always assume that there is possibility to be lied to.

I'm in the same situation lol. We dated for around 2 years and we broke up around six months ago. Funny thing is, we're still in contact with each other (sort of), mostly because I kept insisting we maintained contact (kind of pathetic, I know). She already seems to have moved past it (in which she started e-dating a guy 2 months after we broke up) and seems to be fine. She lied to me several times throughout our relationship (though I don't think it has reached the end point of cheating) and always tried hiding things from me, never being totally partial. I still do have enormous feelings but, but these are most attributed to my mental issues I think. Hopefully I'll go back to start taking my meds by the next year, otherwise there's a huge risk I end up killing myself. My advise? I don't have one. They say it eventually fades away, so we'll see. Might take a year, two, don't know. I've gotten in contact with other women after our break up, but I still think of ever nonetheless. Been thinking recently about going off of social media, cold turkey style, maybe this'll help?