getting over it

>girl joins my friend group and starts hitting me up >few days later all of a sudden she says she is going for my best friend (after calling me cute n soykaf) >say ok, get over it >few weeks later she tells me she did like me but a mutual friend talked untrue soykaf on me >she flirts with me a lil more after that but im hesitant, especially after knowing she tried to (unsuccessfully) go after my best friend >the simping works and i start to get emotions again >i get the vibe that she all of a sudden is going for my friend again and she starts to ignore me more what do? i know logically me getting with her isn't the best idea, but its hard to get over these feelings.

She can't make up her mind. Why should you let yourself fall into that? As someone who's been there, done that - you deserve better, OP. Chances are you'll either end up upsetting your friend or get your feelings fuarrrked when she tells you she likes your friend more and doesn't wanna be with you (if she even admits it as such).

Just both of you fuсk her. It'll be fun. It doesn't have to be a big deal.

Not that I hate you, OP, but I don't think this is the best place to make such a thread. Maybe in the advice thread, though I wouldn't do it anyways. And yes, >>25683.

I have a girl like this in my life the trick is to be more badboy/interesting/unavailable to her in the right mix my chick wont date me because I don't let her treat me the way she treats her boyfriends don't be a simp, let the other guys do that for you but don't EVER expect a relationship from her -gato

Hmm, some girls are just not fit for healthy relationships. I think you should just fuarrrk her and that's it.

If i was you i would talk to her about how the way she treats you is annoying. If she became agressive maybe is better to just ignore her.

fuarrrk her or ignore her. This is why you don't let girls into your groups.

>>25697 this. I don't think many Lainons would have similar experiences with dating and relationships

kick bitch from friend group

Having friends who you can flirt with(and flirt with you) is good IMO. If nothing else it gives you an ego boost. Just chill I guess

>>25680 She only just joined you friend group and already hit on 2 of the guys in there? Sounds like your typical parasitic attention whore. She'll wreck your group if you let her. She's already toying with you ("Teehee, I like you, Lain!" "Hmm.. Maybe, I like you too.." "fuarrrk off, glitterboy. I don't like you anymore") and she will continue toying with you and your emotions, maybe getting her holes filled here and there, until she gets bored and move onto another group to get her attention fix. Also, since I noticed it, I have to point it out: In the first few months of trying to seduce a girl, DO NOT LET HER KNOW YOU LIKE/LOVE HER*. This is the #1 fatal error. "But.. in romantic movies, this always works!". It works there, but it doesn't work in real life, as it has probably shown you over and over again. Asshole Chads gets the girls, not Nice Guy Oman. Once you spill the beans to her, especially early in the relationship process, she's done with you and will move on. It shows a certain neediness and dependancy on others, that's very offputting to women. The Archtypical Man that is succesful with women, does not need others and is independent in what he does. You noticed how she drifted away after you ignored her, only to come back to you again later? Another thing is that Women like to conquer men, and once a man has confessed his love to a woman, the man is conquered and the woman has won. She'll put you in her backpocket and will look for new victims to conquer. I can share some reading material on the subject if you're interested. Let me know. *This rule goes doubly for attention whores! In fact, do not ever tell a attenion whore you like her. Better yet, just completely ignore attention whores.

She sounds like a sleazy cunt if we can be real here

>>25971 >that pic Wow he is literally me.

>>25976 I made out with girls like that, and I can 100% guarantee that those ones do not floss

who cares, there are like 3.5 billion women out there, if you're into exclusively biological females I mean, that's such a big number that you can't even comprehend it... soo

>>25986 Well, probably only about a billion or two mate able women

>>25975 And that sounds like fun to me if you don't get too invested. Life is what you make of it (to an extent).

>>26027 Validating slags by fuarrrking them will propel society to destruction.

>>25680 >girl joins my friend group and starts hitting me up >few days later all of a sudden she says she is going for my best friend (after calling me cute n soykaf) Girls...

>>26026 If you say so, prune

>>26109 xD just trying to cut out minors and old ladies

>>26140 stickler, when woman loses her teeth and loses her ability to get pregnant that's when she is at her prime Also she need to be elbow height and have a flat head so I can rest my beer on her

>>26155 So you're exclusively into asian grannies then?

>>26156 who wants to know? you ready to mingle baby ;) ching chong ping pong

>>26155 I think you should go outside, go for a walk in the park, and make some friends xD

>>26155 Lainon, I...

Knowing what to do is one thing but if you cant fallow through it doesn't make a difference, so just do what ever feels right (its what you'll tend to end up doing anyway) and hope your intuition is good. vague answer? yes, but its not like your going to end up fallowing more complicated advice anyway.

>>25680 What would chad do? Chad would ignore her and move on. No offense but she sounds fickle and incapable of forming or trusting her own perspective. Don't let women rob you of your judgement and ultimately your sanity. It is not worth it.

>Start to get emotions Get your soykaf together man. You're the second option. The failsafe. This whore like any other woman is just looking for the best she can get BLATANTLY doing it in your face and everyone's else faces. Shit, if i were you i'd be mad as fuarrrk, but with myself, over being such a fuarrrking idiot. Tell that whore to fuarrrk off and get a escort man.

OP here, yall were right. she still liked my best friend. big down in the dumps rn

>>28584 Sorry that happened to you bro, if you want to be in a relationship then you’ll find a girl who’s as excited about you as you are about her, and if you just wanna fuarrrk there’s plenty who want the same. Don’t let incels trick you into thinking all women suck, they’re people just like us. Some suck, cut those ones out of your life. Don’t hide your feelings when you have them, but don’t get attached to any woman who gives you attention either. Don’t ever feel bad for having feelings for someone, even if they don’t work out. You deserve someone who respects you and who you respect too. The chad myth is a lie, you don’t need to fake who you are to get women and if you do you won’t get the right one. Try to find someone who understand you and makes you happy to be with. Life’s long, you’re gonna keep meeting more people and one day you’ll find someone you click with. Surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself and the person you wanna be, not just girls but friends too. I hope you feel better soon, this is temporary. t. happily married oldhead

>>28588 prob was, she was as excited about me as i was her. she always initiated flirts and soykaf. i hope my best friend makes the right decision.

>>28590 That definitely is like kicking dead whales down the beach bro. Some people like the attention and don’t think about the effect their actions will have on other people, sounds like she was soykafty to you and didn’t take your feelings into account and that’s NOT right. If you’re not cool with your friend being with her, I’d tell him that. If he’s a good friend he’ll understand that stringing his friend along is not what he wants in a gf. I know it doesn’t seem cool and I totally understand if you don’t wanna do it and make things weird, it fuarrrking suuuuuucks having to talk about soykaf like this. When I was in high school a girl did something similar to me and my best friend, telling us both she liked us and being flirty and soykaf and it drove a wedge between us for a couple weeks. At one point she kissed me and the next day he just asked me straight up if something was going on and I told him the truth and that she was flirting with me a lot and I really liked her and he said she was doing the same stuff to him. I told her that night that whatever was going on was over and we just moved past her and went back to being best friends. It came out later through a mutual friend that she was just using me to make him jealous (not saying that’s what happened here, its just relevant to my story) and I was so hurt to be honest. But I told my friend outright that we should just cut her out and we did. If he was with her idk what I would have done, but it would make me feel really soykafty to have to see her with him after she pretty much used me so it might have been the end of that friendship. Ultimately it’s up to you and what you feel comfortable with. This is a really soykafty situation to be stuck in but sometimes things like this just come up and test our friendships. I really hope your friend makes the right call too. Rooting for you man.

>>28588 This is good advice, for me as well. Thank you, hmo

>>28591 friend said he doesnt plan on dating her but does have feelings for her. ex said she wont pursue anyone anymore. she wants to be just friends. i told her it wasnt the best idea.

>>28618 No prob bro! I think that young guys these days have a lot of pressure to be what their not or fit some kind of mold and it contributes a lot to self esteem and image problems that guys run into in their teens and twenties. We need more people telling young guys that it’s okay to be yourself, that it’s not unmanly to feel excited or unsure and that stuff isn’t gonna feel this way forever. Not to grt all mushy but we gotta encourage boys to be proud of who they are and know that they’re worthy of being in relationships (romantic or otherwise) that make them feel appreciated and supported. Build each other up yanno, that’s how we help each other be better. Hope you feel secure in the person you are and are working towards being the best man you can be. t. bro poster

>>28623 Glad your friend made that call, totally normal to have feelings still but if she’s doing this to two dudes in the same group it’s just too messy and means she’s not respecting either of you. Good on ya for standing your ground and setting boundaries. It can be hard to know and act when you’ve been put in this kind of situation where someone comes into your life and gives all these mixed signals. I’m proud of you both, good luck in the future man! Pop into the vent thread if you have anything going on I’m always lurking in em.

sorry OP but this type of thread is not suited to this chan at all.

here's an update for y'all. i'm pretty sure she hooked up with my friend. i saw her at his house on her story trying on clothes and soykaf. he gifted her a steam game, they have the same discord avatars yada yada. it hurts a lot. my heart is constantly beating and im always stressed out. i don't even want to be with her, i just want her gone. she's lied to me and my friends. >>28957 i dont care

>>29049 > i saw her at his house on her story trying on clothes and soykaf. he gifted her a steam game, they have the same discord avatars yada yada. lmao how trite

It's like that some times. Best to distance your self from her until you get over the 'it's a girl' feelings. They're natural, and they'll go away. When girls like this end up in friend groups it's pretty harmful to everyone's friendship, it's best to just not get too involved, she'll be gone someday.

>>26776 Kik?

>>29052 Relationships these days aint what the used to be. Would you seriously want to date such a person? Id probably shoot her if i was involved in such business, but thats just me i guess.