am i a groomer? what do i do?

i met this guy in this kinda gooner fiend filled discord server, he seemed generally pretty docile and cute, he posts cute things in the art channels and tended to dislike overly sexual stuff with some exceptions so i assumed he was a generally kinda low libido guy which is ok he's fun and i wanted to be his friend. i, on the other hand, i'm part of the gooner crowd so when we started talking i noticed our conversations slowly became more sexual, mostly because of things he saw me typing in the server or i said as a joke, eventually we started exchanging nudes and what not and we have gotten to a point where i feel a bit weird. he seems very into me, i am also quite into him and if it wasn't because of the distance and our current financial state we would meet up and thats great i really like him but another part of me has me thinking about how...he says he has never felt like this for anyone, the way he grew up lonely and i'm basically one of his only 2 or so friends, the way i "healed" in his own words his sex adversion, how he thinks he's very autistic and because of that and his parents sheltering him despite being older than me at 24 (im 20) hes still kind of a shut in and it hurts me to say but kind of...childish? i cant say exactly but he doesn't view himself as mature. i'm not mature at all but i feel the way i basically creeped into him and kind of exploited how "innocent" he is about intimacy (even if e-intimacy) to get off with him and now turned him into more of a pervert makes me feel really guilty and i don't know what to do, i really do like him and want to be friends forever but i feel the sexual part of our relationship will ruin it somehow and it's gonna be my fault, i don't know if i can explain myself properly and it's driving me insane i just want to know...am i going crazy? is it all in my head? do i bring this up to him?

make fun of him for being gay doesn't have to be too hard its the friendly thing to do, too

he is 24 and should know better. just stop if it makes you uncomfortable?? you should rather worry about being intellectually molested

discord relationships are a messed up thing, but he's 24 so i assume he would count as a consenting adult. i'm kinda against the nature of this entire e-relationship though. but again if he's not in any way, yknow, "delayed", ig who am i to say anything against it

You both are hopeless fa99ots. Might as well try to make some sense of it and go fuarrrk like mad rabbits.

>am i going crazy Hmmm. Well, the address the title, no it wouldn't be grooming. I think you are overthinking it overall. >the way i "healed" in his own words his sex adversion The guy never really had any space to express and explore himself sexually and you gave him that outside of a public space. I don't think that's bad at all. He's going through the motions. I'm glad that he hasn't contacted some of the more depraved goons out there and decided to contact you. You can pace, or lead, the sexual parts. >do i bring this up to him Coming from someone that's in a LDR poly relationship for a good few years (i know. lainon is a "slutty glitterboy"), communication is so so so important. ask him if he's free to talk about how you feel about the friendship and your concerns that you could maybe fuarrrk it up. that you'd like to slow down the lewd stuff and get to know him more, if that's what you wish. as to how to "slow down", it could by making time for it if it's like a big part of the friendship. or maybe finding another hobby you two could learn or already enjoy and do more of that. but take time to talk it out. I can read that it is eating at your mind right now and I think you'll benefit from letting him hear you out and what he thinks about your concerns. Hope it helps, Lain. take it easy :)

grooming is an initiation ritual for users so it's not important

>>102153 no it is important because before you're groomed you're generally not a user. OP should stop immediately and avoid doing anything like this again, or going into situations that could turn into this.

>>100491 >I'm 20 and in a sexual relationship with a 24 year old on discord. >Am I grooming him? Please just go outside, I'm begging you.

this post is like 3 months old and OP didn't reply. was kinda hoping for a follow up because it sounded funny. conclusion : OP is fake and gay.