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It's my birthday today and nobody has told me happy birthday, not a single person. I don't know how my life got like this, I just don't understand. People seem to come and go from my life, but nobody ever chooses to stay. It's probably something that I'm doing to make it so hard to have friends, to even build relationships up to be strong enough so that people care enough about you to say happy birthday. Sometimes I like to blame my environment to, but at the end of the day this is probably a problem I am causing. So I don't know, just felt like venting about my loneliness I guess, it gets pretty overshadowed around this time. Happy New Years.

Happy birthday, Lainon. I think it takes some notice to have people greet you when they wouldn't otherwise. Just like this thread.

>>4546 Happy Birthday Anon It's same for me here. I lost all my friends in final year, seems no one gives a fuarrrk and it is easy for me to just hug loneliness. But hey here some positives if you are feeling soykaf you can mail me I would love to have you as my friend 'sam182@protonmail.com'.

>>4546 Happy birthday, lain. My situation is exactly the same. Just as many other lains I suppose. The first few years my birthday went unnoticed were kinda sad and weird. Now I honestly don't feel anything. And the same goes for holidays like christmass. It pains me seeing you helpless in this situation and I wish I could help you, but I don't have an answer other than try to meet people and create bonds. Of course, doing that you'll experience failure. But also chances are you'll meet someone you'll grow fond of.

Happy birthday and happy new year and all You can count on us OP, we like you

>>4546 Happy Birthday Lainon! While I don't think I've had a birthday go by completely unnoticed yet, I've had years where only one or two people remembered it, so I can somewhat relate. Good luck in the future OP, I'm sure things will get better. Happy new year!

happy birthday, Lain.

>>4546 Happy Birthday my Lain. It's not a bad thing to not have friends, unless it pains you. But it's your decision either way. If you want to talk to some people, I'm sure there's people in the IRC (probably even a couple of people on the mumble server, seeing as it's New Year's).

>>4546 What The fuarrrk NOBODY! I get what you mean though, it's really hard to connect with people and they are usually more interested in more open and confident other people and you can't tell anybody cuz you can't get close enough to anybody. I took MDMA for the 1st time with 2 others for NYE and just ended up venting everything to them. Like talking about soykaf I never would have said for fear of rejection. I don't know man because I still can't grasp what people think of me.

>>4546 Happy birthday OP. I am in very similiar situation, I can't create a true friendships and all new people I meet aren't interested in maitaining contact.

>>4546 Happy birthday OP feeling like i ended up in a similar situation here too. Throw a reply if you want to make contact & vent.

>People seem to come and go from my life, but nobody ever chooses to stay. This is the reality of 90% of people.

>>4570 I'm the opposite of you guys, I don't stick to people most of the time, as a matter of fact, I try to vanish from people's lives as a service, perhaps.

>>4572 Are you a hooker?

Loneliness is wonderful. Generally, I prefer to be alone and to experience and appreciate the relative transience of my relationships and ultimately the whole world. But I suppose such an answer is not what you are interested in. Happy Birthday OP, Hope you learn to love all of your existence, even the crushing loneliness.

>Sometimes I like to blame my environment to, but at the end of the day this is probably a problem I am causing. >People seem to come and go from my life, but nobody ever chooses to stay. Whenever I try to make friends, they all send signals like they don't need more friends - everyone does that, even people who I know of being lonely. That's when I stop because if I continue my friendship efforts, it makes me look like a needy ass. On the other hand, if someone would act kinda like a needy person, really wanting to befriend me, I'd feel more comfortable doing befriending actions. It's a game theory thing I guess. Both people have to show open interest in a friendship/relationship but showing open interest is also "risky" as it will diminish your social power level. This means that both people(or none) can be blamed in the end, don't be hard on yourself. I don't get birthday wishes either, that's okay, I don't like greeting other people as well. It's such a pointless little thing.

It was yesterday but happy late birthday, lain. We're all in the same boat here.

>>4546 Thats terrible anon, but dont give up hope. Happy new year and birthday.

to be honest I don't know the birthdays of some of my closest friends. I have to be reminded.

If you are such a waste of space that nobody cares about you even to drop a "happy birthday" on social media maybe you should re-evaluate your value as social cohesive unit and person. If anyone cared about you they would say something. You brought this onto yourself.

>>4546 Sorry i'm three days late, but happy birthday anon! please don't let the soykaf from this >>4588 poster get to you.

>>4588 What a load of soykaf. Tying the value of an individual to their ability to garner "Happy Birthday!"'s on social media is absurd. Maybe you should take a look in the mirror and re-evaluate how you judge others and yourself.

Happy belated birthday and happy new year! I hope this year is better than 2017, and I hope that next year is even better than that!

Happy belated birthday anon! I had my birthday yesterday as well. Though I spent my whole day drinking and reflecting on my failures.

>>4593 No, but it is a good indicator of some social problems OP might have. And I would assume most of them are OPs fault even though he would like to claim it is his environments fault. No normal person would be such a shut in that not even their family wouldn't say happy birthday. All I am saying is just because a person is in bad situation doesn't mean they don't deserve it. Just because OP is lonely doesn't mean he/she didn't drive them away by acting like a douche. We shouldn't pitty OP and try to feed him/her with attention but try to help him/her sincerely by getting to the bottom of why they didn't get a happy birthday from anyone... that is if we really cared about OP in first place.... BUT NO, you guys just want to feel good about yourselves by saying that I am a bad person and putting a one liner of "happy birthday OP" thinking everything is fine and going your own way. fuarrrk you pompous douches. Now, OP, why do you think no person, NO PERSON AT ALL, wanted to wish you a happy birthday? Do not give me a cop out of "they are all horrible self centred people" because even in those environments you can find some good people. Do not delude yourself thinking OP isn't at fault of this.

>>4608 Alright I'll concede you've got me on the family point. Unless his family is dead they probably should've contacted him unless he is a total prick. Thank you for clarifying lainon!

>>4608 >>4612 do you really think everyone is supposed to be attached to their families you're both at fault for making hasty assumptions

>>4615 >every member of his family is a jerk to OP >every person in his school is a jerk to OP >every person outside of school is a jerk to OP >that is why he has nobody to care about him even a little or >OP is jerk to everyone which is why nobody cares about him which one does seem more possible?

>>4618 you have no idea what you're talking about

>>4618 Or >his family is awful >he's isolated and shy, so has no friends >he doesn't see any way to do anything outside school without a social circle >he's posting here because he feels horrible and lonely, and has no idea what to do There's no way to know what it is based on the post. We can speculate, but it just reflects our biases, what we want to see. If we want to see the world as basically just, we'll try to see him as a bad person. If not, we'll try to locate his problems somewhere else.

>>4608 it's amazing how you're able to know that all of OP's problems are all his own fault, without knowing a single detail about him

>>4630 >s-s-shut up baka Ladies and gentelman, the last stand of flustered crybaby that has nothing intelligent to add to conversation Seriously, I even drawn out my logic to you and presented my arguments in nice fashion and yet all you have to say is "you are wrong"? Pathetic m8, seriously pathetic.

>>4632 Guy you are replying to here I see life as open ended question to be honest, so there might be my bias. If I were shy (which I was until 15, extreme social anxiety and depression from brutal bullying I endured) then I would push on and try to socialize as much as possible with anyone which I ended up doing until I realized I survived growing up in worst city of my country. I forced myself to go on social activities outside of school that I was just remotely interested in. This is why I think OP is a jerk, because if you're not then you want things to change. If you are lonely you try to find friends. If you are socialy anxious, shy and depressed you look for cure and help. If you crave attention you post online to make others post to you (either by making inflamitory or c1rclejerk posts). This quick craving of attention might help those with real issues as you might have said... for A LITTLE WHILE but in long run they will try to just continue fixating on online interactions than real ones because "you can't get hurt over the internet". Push the little chick out of its nest, make OP uncomftorable, make him help himself because people on internet won't.

>>4751 You too famalam

>>4754 >>4751 Post Scriptum Treating people like victims over the internet only helps to perpetuate their victimhood.

yeah, and helping the homeless just encourages homelessness.

>>4755 there's a fine line between treating someone like a victim and presuming they are completely, 100% responsible for all of his problems

If it'll make you happy, birthday is nothing more than a date, as unimportant as the individual's life itself. It's all just a blip in the cosmic void, and worrying about it makes your time (the only thing that should matter for individual) goes away. Just forget about your birthday, new year and all other social conventions and do things that truly matter for you. Hope that helps.

Doubt it matters by now, but happy birthday man. Have a good year.

>>4546 If you want to make your life better, make a change and there is not better day to do this than today. Start eating healthy and delicious foods, drink 2 liters of water every day, start working out. You don't have to do it all at once, plan it out and make incremental gains. It will make you feel great and can enable you to fix your other issues which you are ashamed to talk about. Stop masturbating and your focus and overall energy will increase. Read a book, start with your to-read list. Many treasures lie undiscovered. A better future starts today. Are you going to be the best you, or will you give up and be part of the mediocre status quo? The decision is yours. Happy birthday.

I'm three months late but happy birthday, dude! I just turned 27.

>>4588 You're a moron >>4546 Happy birthday! Screw the naysayers. Life is difficult, and relationships are even more so; don't give up hope <3 Maybe come make some friends at the TSUKI Project?

Happy birthday man. >>People seem to come and go from my life, but nobody ever chooses to stay. They were probably meaningless anyways. I'm not lumping in people who had to move out of town, but some people I've met would have been better off never being acquainted in the first place. Best wishes for a new year.

>>4546 Anon, do you really need other peoples validation to feel important? Are you really that weak? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VrHhS5IkRR0

>>6076 The only truly important person in life is yourself, the best thing you can possibly do is be trustworthy to yourself. Everyone else aside from yourself is temporary.

Why do you guys care so much about birthdays? I go out of my way to avoid anyone knowing or wishing me happy birthday. I don't tell anyone when my birthday is. If somebody asks I just avoid the question jokingly. My mother is the only one who remembers usually. So I just act like im grateful for her. Same for any holiday really.

>>8051 it sounds like OP is merely commenting on the existentialist principle of how a day normally celebrated is going unknown, almost as if he never even existed

>>4546 Happy birthday Lainon.

>having your birthday on 1/1 lucky